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(For you pragmatists, the increase in workplace performance you get from feeling very close to a co-worker dissolves when you start swapping spit.) Of course people ignore this advice in droves, and forty percent of workers actually have an on-going relationship with someone at work. Here are some tips to do it without killing your career.) Based on my experience and my research, I am declaring that it’s normal to think about having a one-night stand with a co-worker, and it’s normal for your mind to travel to fantasy land on a business trip.
As painful as it is—and as backward as it seems—there is a common experience in which a woman sleeps with a man in the hopes that sex will encourage a more consistent relationship, and then is disappointed when it doesn’t work.
Of course, there are men who have sex quickly and still work toward cultivating a meaningful, intimate relationship afterward.
But in my practice I have seen and heard both sides—the woman’s disappointment when no relationship materializes, and the man’s waning interest when sex occurs quickly in the dating process—and vice versa, of course.
Of course, there are tons of people with stories of one-night stands leading to marriage—but that’s still an exception, not the norm. If you really like a person, sleeping with him (or her) right off the bat is less likely to help you cultivate a meaningful, intimate relationship over time than if you wait until creating more connection, reciprocity, and mutual investment. But there are so many different kinds of people and twists to this script. The article doesn't suggest any kind of time frames.
Oprah’s in-house therapist has addressed this situation — where you feel very close to someone you work with all the time.
And, in a shocking turn of events, she recommends that you don’t act on it. I think if we all admit this, we can all get good at having the feelings and not considering the option of acting on them – which would not only help save marriages but also help stop sex harassment at work.
Often, a relationship after first-date sex is not something you can count on until he follows up words with actions.
When he doesn’t, it can leave you feeling disappointed, shamed, and disbelieving—and these feelings can lead to a dangerous and uncomfortable spiral in which you try to re-captivate him through the only means that has worked so far—sexual enticement—hoping that if he sees you or is reminded of you, he’ll feel the way he felt last time and everything will get better.